a dispassionate form of love. The friendship sort of love or "brotherly" love. It includes loyalty to friends & family. It is the kind of love as the desire, for instance, you have for certain food or the enjoyment for certain activities like when you say you love shopping. Philio love tends to be focussed on how you feel for the person NOT his needs (agape). For lovers, the relationship moves on from eros to phileo, when both become comfortable with each other, and love flourishes and has tender affection for the beloved but it expects response. It is a love of relationship, comradeship, sharing, communication & friendship. It represents a safe haven in relationships but also sometimes described as boring and mundane stage. While eros makes lovers, phileo makes a close companionship that is all trusting. It is at this stage that feelings, thoughts, fears, plans & dreams are shared. Marriage without phileo will be unsatisfactory no matter the passion in the bedroom. It is a love that cultivates the very foundation for a strong relationship built on trust and feeling safe or secured.
All we did was talk. All we did was kiss. All we did was love. Was it real? When you said you think you already love me? WOW. I wasn't ready for that . Did I have to tell you that I love you, too? I thought about you and I couldn't sleep at night. You were the weirdest person ever. You told me so! But you made me happy and I felt special. I've never really met anyone like you. You made me scared, too, you know. It tore me up when sometimes we couldn't say what we truly felt.
I can tell there's something wrong. Because then we fought. Yea, we argued and got angry and we cried. I wanted to run away from you. I didn't want to feel anymore. It was painful. I guess there's so much more to learn and know about you. I wasn't sure I wanted to do that anyway. I think now I'm ok. It took a while for me to forget you. All those feelings. But it's really not that bad. Feels good to get over you.
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